The benefits of sports abound in a child’s development: motor skills, teamwork, physical activity, and even improved vision.
We asked experts at the National Alliance for Youth Sports as well as an award-winning college coach/recruiter to answer some of the most pressing questions parents have about kids and sports. NAYS provides training and guidance to youth sports programs across the United States.
What’s the best age to start a sport?
This answer varies depending on the sport and what you hope your child will gain. Most experts suggest anything before age 6 should be focused on physical activity and fun, with no scorekeeping. By age 7 and 8, kids have the skills necessary to try team sports, while competitive sports are best reserved for ages 9 and older. See our list of organizations in SWFL offering opportunities for kids to play a wide variety of sports.
Is it ever too late for kids to start playing a new sport?
No, according to Hannah Dave, head field hockey coach at Newberry College in South Carolina. Dave, who was named 2019 NCAA Division II Field Hockey Coach of the Year by Synapse Sports, started playing field hockey her freshman year of high school.
“I went to college with kids who’d been playing [field hockey] since 6 years old, and I started in high school,” says Dave, who played NCAA Division II field hockey at Limestone University in South Carolina. “Starting early is going to be the best for someone who really wants to go to the next level, but I would say no, it’s never too late. There will always be different levels of participation available.”
For the late bloomer, you might consider a personal coach. John Engh, executive director of NAYS, says the use of private training is one of the biggest changes he’s seen in the last decade. It was discouraged prior to that, but as kids have become involved in sports at increasingly earlier ages, private training can provide an older child new to the sport a chance to get up to speed. “The only caveat is known who that person is because there’s absolutely no one overseeing their work,” Engh warns.
Any guidance in choosing a sport?
Consider a child’s personality when deciding on the right fit. You’ll want to ensure your child has the abilities to be successful and confident. Some kids may welcome an aggressive outlet, which sports can provide, while others may not want the pressure of being part of a team, Engh says.
In his nearly 30 years of experience, parents typically want their kids to gain social skills or learn about winning and losing. “Generally, the last thing parents say is [that] they want them to be a great baseball player,” he says.
Once you choose the sport, review your options. “If you want your child to learn and have fun,” Engh says, “make sure the team you’re joining is about learning and fun and not creating an all-star team.”
For a greater challenge and to get your kids seen by recruiters, travel teams and club leagues offer an elite level of competitive play. These teams require a commitment to travel, time, and expenses beyond those found in school or park and recreation programs. Some families find themselves working around other family members and duties to honor the team's expectations. Parents must review whether that commitment works for their family and if the benefits outweigh the considerable investment. Additionally, Engh cautions parents to consider whether the added expenses and commitments guarantee their child any more playing time.
Make sure you closely examine the fine print in any program, no matter how innocent it may seem, Engh says. Each program should have printed and available guidelines for parents, including expenses you can anticipate. Consider “hidden” costs beyond program fees, such as uniforms/costumes, shoes, competition travel (gas, meals, hotels), etc.
Are there guidelines for how much a child should practice and play?
NAYS recommends:
• Ages 6 and younger: Limit practice and games to a maximum of one hour per day, twice weekly.
• Ages 7 to 10: Limit time to one hour per day, three times weekly.
• Ages 11 and older: Limited to 1.5 hours per day, three times weekly.
Learn more at https://nays.org.
Should a child specialize in a single sport?
Most medical advice encourages parents to delay sports specialization for as long as possible. The risk of overuse injuries, not to mention burnout and performance pressure, outweighs any advantages a young person might have in focusing all their effort on one sport. In fact, versatile, multi-sport athletes tend to be viewed advantageously by recruiters.
Why do kids quit sports?
NAYS has studied this since the 1980s. The top reason kids quit a sport is because it’s just not fun anymore. What makes a sport no longer fun? Time and parent pressures, Engh says, as well as a greater self-awareness. The kid who thought baseball was fun may see top kids on the team excelling and become aware that they are not as good a player.
What’s a parent to do? You can try taking a break or playing at a less competitive level, but ultimately, Engh says, “there comes a time when you just have to let it go.”
We have a star athlete. What’s the likelihood of an athletic scholarship?
The odds are slim – about 2 in 100 athletes – and most aren’t a free ride. Check out https://scholarshipstats.com for current information on playing college sports and athletic scholarships based on individual sports, from baseball to water polo.
Engh advises parents to wait until high school before deciding their child surely is destined for the pros. It’s premature to base a child’s talent on the play before then (although he admits that recruiters for certain sports consider those early successes). “Keep a clear head and evaluate where they’re at in high school when age gaps tend to level out,” he says.
Should we invest in an agent?
That depends on the sport, says Dave. It’s all right if you don’t want to join a club league, yet it may require you to be a bit more proactive in reaching out to colleges. Finding someone, such as an agent, who knows the college recruiting process can be advantageous.
Engh agrees. “If your child is older than 15 and they’re getting letters from colleges,” he says, “an agent is probably not a bad idea.”
What’s always a big advantage in a recruiter’s eyes? Supportive families, Dave says. “I do think it makes or breaks how you coach, how you play,” she says. “I always want my players to play for themselves first, but I also tell them they need to play for those who are supporting them.”
Hannah Dave
Coach Hannah Dave conducts field hockey practice at Newberry College in South Carolina.
Lissa Carlson, a writer of parenting articles for more than 20 years, sees the great benefits of sport participation and admires families who commit to it.
Tips on How to Be a Good Parent in the Recruiting Process
Believe it or not, parents and close family members are looked at during the recruiting process. If family members seem over-involved, overbearing or act foolish, coaches are likely to look in the other direction.
Coaches are looking to recruit athletes who can handle themselves and are internally motivated (don’t perform the sport simply because the parents make them). Coaches are looking for parents who will not be any trouble.
It isn’t uncommon for parents to constantly bombard coaches. This only hinders their athlete’s chance at success.
Tips to help your athlete look good in the eyes of coaches
1. Let the athlete reach out to the coaches. Often, parents will reach out to coaches, sending out resumes and other information. This does not look good to college coaches. Coaches want to hear from the players! This also sends a message that the athlete isn’t the one interested in getting a sports scholarship. Secondly, when parents are the ones reaching out, it can be perceived as laziness and that the athlete doesn’t want to do the work to attend their college.
2. Research what your athlete needs to send to coaches. Also, proofread emails to make sure they are grammatically correct and are highlighting the athlete’s accomplishments properly.
Jim - stock.adobe.com
3. As a parent, avoid reaching out to coaches if possible. Parents should not be messaging or calling the coaches. Cheer from the sidelines. Be supportive, but be comfortable with stepping back and letting your athlete take control.
4. Help your athlete identify reasonable goals for their college career. Do your research and determine what is possible for your athlete. Don’t assume your athlete will get full-ride scholarships. Research has revealed that only about 2% of high school athletes receive a full ride. Help your athlete determine what level their skill will best fit in — Division l, Division ll, Division lll, NAIA, etc.
5. Make sure your athlete wants to pursue their sports career. The athletes who make it to school because of their parents’ dreams often lack motivation and likely drop out or are dismissed from the team due to lack of enjoyment or commitment. Allow your athlete to be honest with you. It could be a miserable process if your athlete does not want to pursue sports beyond high school. Many athletes do it because their parents are pushing them to — this will only cause trouble down the road. Don’t assume your athlete wants to play — deliberately ask them!
Reprinted with permission from www.gulfcoastperform.com, courtesy of Gulf Coast Performance in Naples.