The events of Sept. 11, 2001, may feel recent to most adults, but something that took place over two decades ago feels like another era to children. So it is important to use a delicate approach when talking with your kids about the day, according to Global Game Changers Children’s Education Initiative Inc. The events of 9/11 hold a powerful, useful lesson for younger children: understanding that we can overcome tragic events if we work together.
Here are eight tips for talking to children about 9/11.
9/11 Memorial
Caroline Duggan waves her USA flag while visiting Freedom Park in Naples, FL (in 2018).
1. Check your vocabulary
Young kids don’t have the nuance or ability to understand some of the bigger terms you might associate with 9/11: “radical Islam,” “weapons of mass destruction,” “terrorism,” etc. Consider using terms that children can understand, such as “problem,”
“solution,” “hurt,” “afraid,” “helper.” For kids younger than 10, you might say, “In New York and Washington, D.C., some bad people flew planes into buildings. Many people were hurt, and many people were afraid. In fact, that’s what the bad guys wanted.”
2. Be knowledgeable
Even if you have clear and vivid memories of 9/11, brush up on your facts. Kids will ask a variety of questions, so you will want to be prepared. In case they come up with a question you don’t know the answer to, don’t make up an answer. You can either say “I’ll find out and let you know,” or you can search for the answer together.
3. Have a purpose in mind
Make sure you know the ultimate lesson you’re trying to convey from your conversation. We recommend three goals: 1) There was an event called 9/11 that impacted the entire country. 2) There were many heroes as a result of that day. 3) Although we were faced with tragedy, we emerged resilient.
4. Know your audience
Different children have different capacities for understanding events in the news. Broadly speaking, children younger than 10 tend to internalize events and are less able to separate what happened to other people from what happened to themselves. By contrast, children older than 10 are less likely to internalize something like 9/11, and thus less likely to be scared for their own safety.
5. Don’t hesitate to use tools
GCC’s www.911lesson.org website is focused on helping kids in grades K-5 understand and process 9/11 with a video, virtual galleries, interactive activities, and service projects. You also can check out some children’s books written about 9/11.
6. Read the room
Learning about 9/11 can bring up difficult feelings of loss and fear for some children. Be alert to those signs in your own children, and especially in a larger setting like a classroom, where you may be less aware of each child’s past experiences. Allow for some quiet space to think and reflect.
7. Remember the positive
Although 9/11 was a tragic event with widespread consequences, help kids focus on the positive. Integrating heroic stories of familiar figures – firefighters, EMTs, and police officers – will help kids feel less scared. Older kids may connect to the stories of everyday people who stepped up to help.
Remind kids that we have not had an attack like 9/11 since that day. If your children are familiar with air travel, you can tell them how airport security has changed to keep us safe.
8. Explore 9/11’s impact today
Numerous cities across the country, including Naples, have created their own 9/11 memorials, some that include remnants like steel beams from the 9/11 sites. Visiting a memorial is a tangible way for your children to understand what occurred on that day.
Each year, the Collier County Freedom Memorial Foundations hosts a 9/11 remembrance candlelight ceremony from 6:30-8:30 p.m. on Sept. 11 at the memorial at Fred W. Coyle Freedom Park.
Many lives were lost on 9/11, so it is important to be sensitive when sharing anything with a younger child about the events. It can provide a rich history lesson when taught properly.
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Courtesy of Global Game Changers Children’s Education Initiative Inc.