Supporting Healthy Development During a Critical Transition
Adolescence is a pivotal time when teens begin to seek independence, even as the brain—particularly areas governing impulse control and decision-making—is still developing. For teens with additional needs, this transition can present unique challenges. One powerful way to support their growth is by developing executive functioning skills in teens with additional needs through consistent chores and structured responsibilities.
Foundation for success
Executive functioning skills include time management, task initiation and completion, emotional regulation, and flexible thinking. These skills are foundational for success in school, work, and relationships. Research shows that structured routines and responsibilities significantly enhance the development of these capabilities.
For children and teens with additional needs, emotional regulation is especially critical. When expectations are clear and routines are predictable, their nervous systems can relax. This reduces the anxiety that often accompanies transitions, surprises, or unfamiliar situations. Knowing what to anticipate creates a sense of psychological safety, which is essential for growth and learning.
The summer transition
I recently heard from a mom seeking advice on how to manage her teen boys during summer. She shared that her 14-year-old wants to ride his e-bike to the local plaza or hang out with friends, which feels worrisome, while her 16-year-old son wants to fish all day. Both boys are at that tricky age—too old for traditional summer camps and too young for many activities alone, especially while parents work.
This is a common experience for many parents. Summer often brings a shift in routines and freedom, prompting the questions: How much independence should we allow? How can we keep teens engaged, safe, and growing during these unstructured months?
An opportunity
Rather than viewing summer as a challenge, parents can see it as the perfect opportunity to connect differently with their teens. This season creates space to learn where your child is developmentally and emotionally, and to build a new rhythm together.
Creating purposeful routines that include chores and responsibilities helps teens develop executive functioning skills while giving them room to enjoy their interests. Balancing structure with freedom teaches accountability and decision-making within a safe framework.
Why chores matter
Assigning chores does more than keep a household running—it builds life skills and a sense of accountability. A predictable routine with tasks like yard work, household duties, meal prep, or caring for younger siblings teaches teens to manage time and prioritize responsibilities. This healthy rhythm encourages delayed gratification and self-regulation.
For children with sensory, attention, or developmental challenges, even small, achievable chores can reinforce a sense of competence and reduce learned helplessness. Responsibilities should be matched to each child’s ability and supported with encouragement and structure.
Creating a balanced routine
Striking a balance between responsibilities and leisure supports emotional well-being. For instance, mornings can focus on chores, while afternoons allow space for activities like fishing, biking, or socializing. Using visual schedules, calendars, or timers can reduce friction and help teens—especially those with executive function or memory challenges—stay on track.
A sense of purpose
Introducing paid or project-based work builds confidence and motivation. Small business ventures, home improvement tasks, or organizing jobs create meaningful experiences that teach responsibility, foster independence, and develop a sense of purpose.
Regulation and predictability
Predictability is calming, especially for neurodivergent teens. When they know what is expected and when transitions will occur, emotional regulation becomes easier. Introducing plans in advance, using visual aids, and giving choices within clear boundaries all help reduce resistance and build trust.
Integrating sensory breaks, mindfulness tools, and physical outlets into daily structure supports regulation and helps prevent emotional overload.
Communication and safety
Ongoing conversations about relationships, safety, and self-trust are essential during this phase of development. Teens need guidance navigating social pressures and making responsible choices. Collaborative problem-solving, rather than top-down directives, helps teens feel seen and understood.
Conclusion
Parenting teens—especially those with additional needs—calls for patience, clarity, and purpose. Establishing structured routines and meaningful responsibilities offers a powerful way to develop executive functioning skills, promote independence, and support emotional growth. Summer provides a unique window to deepen connection, build life skills, and guide your teen toward a confident, well-regulated future.